When a person goes into treatment, their family can benefit from understanding the unhealthy ways they’ve coped with their loved one’s addiction. Programs for families of addicts can help your loved one and is an essential part of the recovery process for the entire family.
Family members of an addicted person might feel like they are “walking on eggshells” around their loved one. They might fear upsetting their loved one or even believe that they contribute to the addiction. Effective communication and active listening during family therapy can help family members learn healthy ways to address their needs, express concerns, and show affection for one another.
Symptoms of being codependent can include the following:
- An exaggerated sense of responsibility for the actions of others
- Making the other person’s needs a priority over their own
- Providing excuses and apologies for the other person
- Focused on rescuing their loved one
- Avoiding responsibilities and relationships in favor of the other person’s life
- Extreme need for approval and recognition
- Sense of guilt when setting boundaries and limits
- A compelling need to control others
- Lack of trust in self and others
- Difficulty identifying feelings and making decisions
Only offer help that encourages accountability and a healthy, sober lifestyle.
Here are the six best ways to help your loved one:
- Get educated, so you know what you’re up against — HopeTracker.org
- Attend support groups to get guidance and empathy
- Participate in family therapy to heal together
- Maintain open communication about the recovery process
- Take care of yourself and your own needs as an example of self-care
- Get advice from counselors, sponsors, or other families dealing with addiction instead of trying to solve everything yourself
EXAMPLE: If you had a stressful day at work, tell your family about it and share what you’ll be doing for self-care to manage stress. You can set boundaries and ask for help: “We had a lot of appointments today, and I feel rundown. Can you give me an hour to take a long bath to de-stress?”
The best way to encourage treatment is through a formal intervention, but this doesn’t look like what you see on TV. HopeTracker has an entire lesson on how to hold an effective intervention. You can also call or text Wellness at (888) 492-3658. If it looks like Ambrosia is a good fit for your loved one, our certified on-staff interventionist can hold your hand throughout the process for free.
We do all we can to convince our clients to keep communication with their families open. The resistance is usually based on their own shame, embarrassment, and lack of commitment. As they work through these emotions, they may be willing to let you in, even if it’s not on day one.
By HIPPA regulations, your loved one in treatment dictates if and what Ambrosia’s Family Wellness team can communicate to you. Our processes are solid, so if communication is lax, it’s not a reflection of laziness or disorganization. As frustrating as it is, your loved one controls the communication about their treatment (by law). But we’ll never stop trying to convince them to open up.
The Family Wellness team will reach out via call, text, or email several times per week while your loved one is here. We stay in touch long after they leave too. We have families from years ago that we still talk to weekly.
Plus, you can reach out any time. Our responses will be slower from 8 PM-8 AM, but we work off-the-clock to ensure families are taken care of. Even if it’s been months since we last talked, you always have someone to turn to if something comes up.
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Your loved one and HIPPA regulations dictate if and what we can communicate with you. If communication is lax on our part, they may not have signed a release or designated someone else as the primary contact. The therapist will only call the primary contact. That person should update all other family members.
They can revoke their consent at any time. This usually means they want to keep important information from you and is not a good sign. We‘ll do our best to convince them to keep communication open. As frustrating as it is, they control the communication of their treatment (by law).
Both Wellness and their therapist will contact you once a week with an update, pending a release is signed. If you do not hear from the therapist within 1 week, please call the facility. To provide the highest level of care for each client, therapists cannot be on the phone with loved ones all day.
No news is good news. You’ll be informed if your loved one is admitted to a hospital or leaves treatment early. Instead of worrying when you don’t hear from us, remember it means they’re actively in treatment.
Engaging SpeakersFrom the outside, addiction is impossible to understand. Spend a half day learning more about the disease and your role in recovery.
Personal ExercisesStart to communicate your feelings in a group or private family therapy session available Friday or Monday, scheduled with the therapist.
Visiting HoursAfter the session each day, they can get a pass to spend the afternoon with you. In some cases, even off-site. Use the time to relax and reconnect.
Port St. Lucie, FL
Facility Phone — (772) 323-2099
546 NW University Blvd Suite 103 Port St. Lucie, FL 34986
Singer Island, FL
Facility Phone — (561) 721-8800
2626 Lake Drive, Singer Island, Florida 33404