The following questions can help you determine whether you’re enabling:
- Do I hand out money?
- Am I supporting someone who has a drug or alcohol problem?
- When asked for a favor, do I give in and give them what they want?
- Do I make excuses for the person’s behavior
- Do I overlook unwanted behaviors and turn a “blind eye” when they do things that hurt themselves and others?
If you answered yes to these questions, then you are enabling.
The best way to help an addict without enabling is to refuse to participate in the addictive cycle. This includes refusing to provide the addict with money, shelter, transportation, food, clothing, etc., while also refusing to tolerate his or her destructive habits. By refusing to participate, you’re taking away the addict’s source of power over you.