He thinks me wanting him to have an after care program means I'm not giving him the chance to work the AA and NA program. I feel that having an after care program will help me build trust again. I feel like him not putting that in place then he isn't understanding what I need for when he comes home. I am working the Alanon program which helps a lot but I definitely think there needs to be more for the first 6 months when I have learned he is most at risk for relapse. He has been in treatment before came out worked the program and after 5 months relapsed. I am feeling a great deal of anxiety and have resentments building up in me that this wouldn't be a decision that would come easily for him or that I need to talk him into this.