Addiction Forum Question

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HopetrackerA3 A Mom From FL

Why won't my son listen to my rules?

I’m starting to think everything I say to my son goes in one ear and out the other. He acts as if I don’t exist and he can do whatever he wants including coming home at two in the morning, reeking of pot, and sleeping in well past his alarm goes off. His school attendance is embarrassing, and he hasn’t been able to hold down a part-time job for months. How do I make him see that I’m the adult and he’s the child?
Emma B Setting the rules clearly when your son is completely sober would be the first thing to do, as well as discussing a list of consequences for his actions. If he is not able to hold down a job then you are probably paying for his cellphone -this is leverage. These are some of the things that you can start taking away so he is not so comfortable in behaving this way
Olivia K The hardest part of any boundary or rule you set is sticking to it. I would suggest sitting him down and letting him know that, moving forward, if he cannot respect your rules there will be a clear set of consequences. Have a plan in place for his resistance as you are competing with his comfort zone and he may try to justify or manipulate his way out of having to be accountable. Getting extra support for yourself from other trusted family members or a professional can help ease any difficulty you may have in enforcing your boundaries.