Addiction Forum Question

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HopetrackerA3 A Mom From FL

What do I do if I find drug paraphernalia in my house?

As far as I knew, my son had been sober for two years. But, I found a needle in his desk drawer yesterday. He swears it's leftover from the past, but that seems hard to believe. I told him I would call the cops if I ever found drugs in my house again. I don't want to be around that, and I have to consider the safety of my eight-year-old daughter too. Should I believe him and let it go? Should I insist on searching his room and his car? Or, should I call the cops and throw him out now?
Mom46 Drug test is the only way to know. If he refuses to take ... then you can pretty much know he’s still using. When they are clean and have nothing to hide, they will do a drug test without a problem.
Sean D In my experience, you can never be too careful when dealing with addiction. I wanted to believe what my son told me when he said, "I'm holding it for a friend" or some other excuse, but nothing changed until I set a strict boundary that he needed to be drug tested to live in my home.
Olivia K If he has been sober for two years and you found this at an easily accessible place, more than likely it is new. I suggest immediately drug testing him and taking inventory of what his recovery has looked like lately. Do you see any other red flags? (Sleeping a lot, isolating, staying out more than usual, things missing around the house, not going to meetings or working a program?) Sit down with him and revisit your boundaries. He lives in your home, and you need to feel safe. If he doesn’t want to follow through, then there are other living options such as sober housing where he can have a structure that he will be forced to stick to.