Addiction Forum Question

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HopetrackerA3 A Mom From FL

What actually happens at support meetings?

I have a hard enough time admitting to my therapist that my daughter is a drug addict; how in the world am I going to be able to walk into a group meeting and admit it to a bunch of strangers? I can’t just picture their eyes boring into me and my face flushing with embarrassment. I feel like a terrible mother for admitting it, but yes, I’m embarrassed. I’m ashamed of myself and my daughter and of the situation that we are in, but yet, I know we need help. Can anyone tell me what the meetings are actually like?
Wife17 I started by attending a beginners meeting in Al-anon. There was a leader that gave an overview of the program and I felt less intimidated knowing that I wasn't the only newcomer. The hardest part at first was just showing up, but as the meeting went on I felt more and more like I was in exactly the right place.
Olivia K You are not required to share anything in a 12-step meeting, and you can go as often as you like without saying a word. This is usually the first step for most people as they begin to get a sense that they are not alone and eventually feel secure enough to open up. The meeting usually starts with the chairperson asking if there is anyone new to the meeting, but again you are not required to say so. Often there is a speaker or reading, and then the meeting is open for sharing. Nobody is called on unless they raise their hand. Those who speak are asked only to share their own experience and not comment on anything else that has been shared by others.