Addiction Forum Question

Forum Question
Maureen D A Mom From PA

What can I do when I'm so tired of dealing with my son's addiction?

I'm an enabler, I know it. I find it hard to communicate with my son's addiction. I thought I had it under control, but I'm ready to give up on him. (At least I think I am). I'm tired and worn out. Rehab over and over again. He did well for a few months I was so proud, but I just can't do it anymore.
Michelle S I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I completely relate to your story. I am over dealing with it when they don't even want to help themselves, but then the guilt kicks in. I think about what if something happens and I regret not trying harder or doing more. I remind myself that I can't cure her. That she's an adult. I let her know that I love her and miss the real her. That I want her in her life, but I refuse to have anything to do with her addiction. I'm not going to live in worry or pretend that everything is OK. Otherwise, she gets by pretending we still have a relationship when we don't. There's nothing left anymore and there won't ever be again unless she commits to recovery. It's hard, but pretending doesn't change the reality. Accepting is the only answer for peace. I'm pulling for you and your son!
Kelly M I have felt ready to give up so many times I've lost count, but somehow I always got pulled back in. The only thing that kept me sane were my support groups, you should give them a try!
Olivia K Communicating with addiction is not something that should be done one on one. I suggest forming a support group of loved ones in order to come together and communicate as a united front. This not only helps and protects you, but also is more likely to get the sufferer's attention. This can be very effective when done in the proper way with the help of a professional interventionist or family recovery coach.