I asked my husband for a separation a couple of weeks ago. I will start going to Al-anon Wednesday. He is not seeking any outside help at this time. I am done, I have no more cycles left in me, now it's just going through the process. It's hard because he is so sad and devastated. We have 4 kids (17,15,14,12). I really have no more cycles left, I am not concerned about getting back together with him, I am concerned with how horrible it feels when he's around and how painful this process might be. Suddenly he has quit drinking and understands the issue. I'm focusing on my part in it: enabling and codependent behavior. Ugh. Please hold my hand. Thank you.