Addiction Forum Question

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HopetrackerA3 A Mom From FL

Do I have to leave my husband?

My husband’s addiction to painkillers is ruining our marriage. It's as if the person I married is gone, only to be replaced by a version that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. When he's not directly lying to me about his drug use, he's completely incoherent. He can barely stand up straight half the time, let alone hold down a job. We’ve tried going to couple’s therapy, but it didn’t stick. I never dreamed I'd be a divorce statistic but what else can I do? He needs a wake-up call.
Olivia K I strongly recommend that you find a support group for yourself, as addiction is a family disease and you have significantly been affected by it. As far as enabling goes, remember the phrase "nothing changes if nothing changes," so find a way to break that unhealthy cycle by stepping off of the roller coaster that is addiction. This is something that you can discuss with your support group or therapist. Ultimately, the decision is yours if you want to leave him, but know that the cycle usually continues until something changes.