After being arrested for possession of marijuana with the intent to sell, instead of going with the public defender my son decided to hire a lawyer and now, the dollar signs just keep adding up. My son said he’d find a way to get the money, but I’m worried that to him, that means selling drugs and risking jail time again. It would be an endless cycle. I'll have to dig into my retirement fund but, if I pay for the lawyer, then my hope is that my son won’t have to revert back to that life. I feel like he needs me but am I enabling him? I honestly don’t know what to do.